The Inconvenient Truth

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Here we are again at that “special end time” that bridges an outgoing year to a fresh new one. This year it heralds the end of a decade and the start of a new one. For some of us, this “end time” provokes a review of some kind of the outgoing year. Perhaps we may feel that it simply flew by; that work, earning a living and stress took so much of our time, energy and focus that it left us drained and “unconscious” to other sacred priorities like family and spousal relationships, leisure, quiet time, intimacy, self care and purposeful living.


This “end time” may also lead us to the task of resolution making. But what happened to last year’s and the year’s before that resolutions? If you are like me, they were never quite resolute! Here’s an interesting statistic: research over the years has concluded that about 80% of all New Year’s Resolutions are broken by January 31. If that resolution had something to do with health and fitness (working out, losing weight, quitting smoking, etc), 90% will be history by January 15th!! By the end of the year, less than 5% of us will have persevered with our resolutions intact!


  “Many people look forward to the new year for a new start on old habits.” 

- Author Unknown 


I call the above “the inconvenient truth”! The Inconvenient but true fact that the coming year will see the majority of us repeat and keep the same attitudes, paradigms, world view, hurts, doubts, fears and habits of living, relating and behaving. In that sense, the past year will indeed determine the coming one! 


If you are one of the “prediction crazy” types, looking at your stars for the prediction of your fortunes in the coming year; whether it will bring riches, “love” or “that special someone”, etc., then this “the inconvenient truth” will be one prediction you can take to the bank! 


Am I any different? To be honest no! Been there, tried it and done that. So why the hell am I writing this blog for? Well, to share with you another “inconvenient truth”. It is that we can and do have the ability to bring some much needed freshness and passion back into our lives and the lives of our loved ones! But to do this we need these TWIN qualities that I believe are the gateway to other qualities, attitudes, mindset, skills and strategies that will enable us to be different and to make a difference. These TWIN qualities are the qualities of LETTING GO and STAYING AWAKE


Why do I call these TWIN qualities “the inconvenient truth”? Simply because as human persons, we love to hold on to the familiar, to our childhood stories, our past hurts, fears, doubts, betrayals and disappointments! We love to emotionally hug them and fall asleep to the “illusions of their reality”, totally missing opportunities to evolve, stretch and to do something different or simply do things differently with more passion, purpose, enthusiasm and positive intention. 


The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.”

- Oprah Winfrey 


Don’t beat yourself up about this. We all do it. We were made with a neurology that habitually does it for us. It follows this simple process: we do something, get an  outcome from it, give that outcome our personal meaning and emotional reference, make it into a reference point, look for further evidence to confirm it and then turn it into a belief, a value, a principle and world view. Once we have done this, it slips into our unconscious and operates anonymously from there! This habit keeps us safe, makes living predictable and manageable.   


“A habit is something you can do without thinking –  

which is why most of us have so many of them.”  

 - Frank A. Clark 


“The second half of a man’s life is made up of nothing but the habits he has acquired during the first half.”   

- Feodor Dostoevski 


Example, if we do something and get a positive experience from it, we label it as good, associate pleasure and desire to it and we seek to repeat it as often as possible. If we get a negative experience or outcome, we label it as such, associate pain and displeasure to it and do everything to avoid it! We hang on to these for our direction in the future; it becomes our “reality”.  


Take the example of a dog. For “A”, a dog will mean pleasure, fun and a fuzzy feeling of happiness and connection simply he had a good experience of dogs. “A” is always looking for the opportunity to play with dogs. “B” on the other hand hates and avoids dogs! Why? Well, you guessed it; “B” was barked at by a stray dog. The question is, will “B” ever get to discover and experience the pleasures of a “nice, pleasant and loyal” dog in the future? I’ll leave the answer to that question to you.   


‘Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.”  

- Confucius, Analects 


As we reach this “end time” of the year, we are faced with these TWO “inconvenient truths”. Statistics tell us of one “inconvenient truth” while the other stands as its antagonist. Both however give us an insight into our nature as human persons and the immense power we have within us to either remain frozen or to change. Can we do with one minus the other in our lives? No. Somehow in my experience of New Years and years, we will experience both of these truths and then we will be given opportunities to make choices. 


“When God loves a creature he wants the creature to know the highest happiness and the deepest misery He wants him to know all that being alive can bring. That is his best gift. There is no happiness save in understanding the whole.”
Thornton Wilder


 Choices to either “hang on” and “fall asleep” to our old programming, hurts, fears, doubts, expectations, disappointments, choices and predictable painful outcomes or to LET GO of all that weighs us down, our fears and doubts, disappointments while holding on to their wisdom and STAYING AWAKE to the possibilities and opportunities to pursue what our inner child beacons us to in the coming New Year….to possibility, passion, enthusiasm, freshness, courage and meaningful living.           


“Passion rebuilds the world for the youth. It makes all things alive and significant.” 

- Ralph Waldo Emerson


What have you got to loose? What is it that you are holding to that is burdening you? What’s holding you up and keeping you asleep?  When we choose to LET GO and STAY AWAKE, these qualities will then become the door way for passion, enthusiasm, curiosity, courage, confidence, positive dreaming and expectations to enter into our lives. They become new behavior generators that will lead us to new exciting outcomes, freshness and a sense of being alive in the New Year. 


“Don’t ask what the world needs.  Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
- Howard Thurman 


Which inconvenient truth will you choose?  May your choice lead you to an exciting and passionate New Year!




“Another fresh new year is here . . . 

Another year to live! 

To banish worry, doubt, and fear, 

To love and laugh and give! 


This bright new year is given me 

To live each day with zest . . . 

To daily grow and try to be 

My highest and my best! 


I have the opportunity 

Once more to right some wrongs, 

To pray for peace, to plant a tree, 

And sing more joyful songs!” 

 - William Arthur Ward quotes 




Stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world! 



Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources. He has more than 14 years experience in Sales, Marketing, Business Management and Talent Development. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, is a Certified & Licensed Trainer of Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA), a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner.  You can follow Conrad on facebook!