“C 4″

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Have you ever had one of those days when “suddenly”, for no apparent reason, you experienced an “emotional melt down”? When you felt power–less, insecure, unsure and filled with self doubt and self recrimination all at once?  When old toxic beliefs, understandings and memories flooded your awareness and your body got “locked down” with the corresponding painful emotions?

 

Have you had one of those days?

 

I call them “C 4” experiences. Why? Simply because C 4 is a kind of plastic explosive used frequently in the military which, when detonated, produces a nasty explosion with devastating effects….much like an “emotional melt down” experience!

 

 

I had one of those days last week. I was on my way to a business meting with a client when “suddenly” while driving, something in me triggered a “C 4” experience! Boom! My mind began to spiral downwards with self doubts and toxic self beliefs; old memories of “failures” and limitations began playing in my mind as “evidence” as the volume of my self recriminating self talk became excruciatingly deafening! In an instant, I became emotionally flooded with pain!

 

“What holds you back? For most of us, it’s those “dangerous conversations” we have with ourselves.”

 - Suzanne Falter-Barns

 

The funny thing about such “C 4” experiences is that they tend to keep spiraling downward and at the same time keep looping, much like an “auto replay” function on our stereo equipment: we go round and round with the same toxic thought and emotions. We get caught in “muddle” and the more we try to get out of it, the more strongly its hold! Exhausting! 

 

 

“When negative self-talk robs us of our enthusiasm for our dreams, we’re suffering from the classic creative block… Self-criticism can seriously injure potential talent that wants to be expressed.”

- Douglas Eby

 

Have you had such “C 4” experiences?

 

Here’s the thing with such experiences…everyone has them! Yes, everyone. The key however is developing the ability to master them by being able to get out of such “negative mental loops”, “muddles” or “C 4” experiences.

 

How can we do this?

 

1) Develop and keep developing a high level of CONSCIOUSNESS.

 

Firstly, consciousness is not “thinking” or “thinking about our thinking”. It is a state of awareness, of being “awake” and observing our mental thoughts in the present: being in the “now”. It is the ability to take a “mental step back”, observe and witness our thoughts and emotions in a non judgmental or self recriminating way.

 

This can be easily be learned and done.

 

Stop right now and ask yourself what are you thinking and feeling at that very second.

 

Go on, try it.

 

Simple enough, right?

 

Well what you find out, that which you have been thinking about, might amaze or even surprise you as most of us are on “auto-pilot”. We have so many cognitive habits, distractions and noise in our lives that’s it’s important to “check in” with our inner self and become conscious of them, conscious of the mental map out of which we are functioning from. So keep practicing this simple technique: “stepping back”, observing and witnessing our thoughts. 

 

“The only mistake that we can make as human beings is to be asleep, unaware of ourselves.”

- Guy Finley

 

When you learn to develop higher levels of consciousness, you’ll be able to stop yourself before you ever get into one of those “C 4” experiences and gently stepping out of our old habits of thinking!

 

It is here that two powerful Neuro Semantic NLP presuppositions come into play: “Our mental maps are not the territory (reality), it is but a map, a symbolic representation of the territory. And we respond according to our map(s) of reality, not reality”. This simple technique helps us become aware of our old maps and to step out of them.     

 

“No truly conscious human being sabotages himself – it’s impossible, because it’s contrary to Nature.”

- Guy Finley

 

2) Avoid “labeling” yourself for having a “C 4” experience.

 

The problem is never the problem. It is the way we have interpreted the problem, the experience, and labeled ourselves, that makes the “problem” a problem! Once we say to ourselves, “I such a hopeless person…..I just hate it when this happens…I must get my self out of this stupid crap”, we are providing the “muddle” with more mental energy to perpetuate itself.

 

Remember the Neuro Semantic NLP presupposition: “Energy flows where attention goes as directed by intention”. Whenever we “label” an experience, we channel attention to it and the “label” used provides the intentional energy. Example; when we “label” the “muddle” as “crap” and ourselves as “hopeless” we give it the energy of “attention” and the command to “get myself out of this crap” gives it the power of intention…the perfect combination for creating internal conflict!

 

When you feel down; make a point to say JUST THAT:  I feel down. When something negative rolls into your life, label it as the intruder, not yourself as its victim….labels stick – so be very, very careful how you label yourself.”

- Author Unknown

 

Learning not to label ourselves or our experiences is another key that will help reduce “C 4” experiences simply by cutting off its “power supply” provided by attention and intention.

 

 

 

3) Develop and maintain a high sense of self acceptance, self appreciation and love.

 

This is the ultimate source of our personal power, equilibrium and unlimited possibility. Personal power here is in reference to our “inner sense of strength” that cannot be taken away, that’s inherent in us and which flows form self love. Its source is from our dignity and esteem in being created in the image of God, being created with all the resources to be successful, uniquely us and unrepeatable. We need to learn to fall in love again with this true self: this is true personal power!

 

“Only when I was able to accept myself unconditionally was I able to truly love.”

- Alison Stormwolf

 

Two Neuro Semantic NLP presuppositions echo this truth: “People have all the resources they need: they just need to access, strengthen and sequence them. And there’s an abundance of personal resources, plenty for all”.     

 

“Look into your own eyes and say “Yes, I am a good person.”

- Alison Stormwolf

 

Money, reputation, and possessions have no personal power because they can disappear anytime. Nor can good looks count, since they can easily be “disfigured” by time, aging, injury, or illness. Even ones skills and abilities; how well you speak, do business, cook, handle finances, play sports, negotiate big deals in sales, teach, etc. can be lost, destroyed or stolen by circumstance. These are “false” powers.

 

“I cried out in the pain of my dark night for mercy. He told me, “Love yourself.”

- Alison Stormwolf

 

Stop now and attempt to do this simple exercise, honestly ask yourself: 

 

Do you REALLY love yourself unconditionally?

Do you treat yourself as kindly as you would a stranger or a friend?

Are you able to extend to yourself a deep sense of acceptance, appreciation, forgiveness, compassion, understanding and generous forbearance: willing to explore your possibilities, follow your heart, trust your intuition and claim your true power owning you?  

 

“Loving myself has been such a challenge.”

- Alison Stormwolf

 

The constant practice of self acceptance, appreciation and love, coupled with a high level of consciousness, the ability to mentally step back and witnessing our thoughts in a non judgmental way, and not labeling our experiences or ourselves are the very ingredients that from the “magic spell” that eventually removes old habits of self sabotage, our “C 4” experiences; providing us with the antidote to get us out of such spirals and “muddles”.   

 

 

Here’s a simple pattern we can use whenever we get caught in a “C 4” experience:        

 

1.  Accept what I’m feeling. I gently step back and just witness these thought and feeling, comforting and loving myself. Yes, it can seem scary but its just old patterns of thoughts, doubts, fears and emotions: Just Old Maps. 

 

2. I don’t label the experience or myself. They are only emotions and emotions are neither right nor wrong. I allow it to just slide away. I remember that they only hurt me when I give into them; giving them the power of my attention and intention.  

 

 

“The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white.  Neither need you do anything but be yourself.”

- Lao-Tzu

 

3. I turn my attention to the power within me, to whom I really am. I practice self acceptance, appreciation and love. I am my greatest gift and source of real power.  

 

4. I access my vision of my life as I really want it – LOOK AT WHERE I WANT TO BE – my empowering beliefs, imagination, meanings and positive emotions that come with them. (For more information on how to create a compelling outcome for yourself and to be solution focused, check out my recent blog, “Vinegar or Honey”.)  

 

5. I access these positive emotions, amplify them and step into them NOW; I being to experience them in the most powerful way, seeing what I am seeing, feeling what I am feeling and hearing what I am hearing.

 

“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”

-Yogi Bhajan

 

6. Take action that supports my new beliefs to stay present in my own personal power. Staying fully empowered in the NOW.

 

Now, once you get a hang of the above, you can start to get creative in interrupting your “C 4” experiences and patterns of thinking. You can do it with any kind of “crazy” unexpected or sudden movements or response. Imagine being a “pest” to someone who is trying to tell you a story by constantly interrupting him by asking “stupid” questions, making funny noises, getting up and dancing, slamming a door, tapping a tune with your finger tips or whistling a nursery rhyme so much so the person just can’t continue or remember what he she wanted to say in the first place!

 

 

“And now, excuse me while I interrupt myself.”

- Murray Walker

 

Well, you can get that creative with yourself and interrupt your old pattern or strategy of thinking that puts you in a unresourceful “C 4” state/experience. Some of the things that you can do to interrupt your states can be humor and laughter, choosing to see the funny side of things, which can be an awesome “C 4” stopper. Recalling a fast beat tune and singing it loud, going for a walk, changing your physical posture (suddenly standing up, moving to a different location or even stretching) can also serve as effective interrupters.

 

Almost every person experiences “C 4” experiences. Most of the time, they act like an “echo” of our old negative patterns of thinking and feeling that have become bad cognitive habits. Habits can be useful, they put our brains on “auto pilot”, meaning that it become so efficient that it become an unconscious pattern; leaving our conscious mind “free” to focus else where. Habits, however, can be “bad news” when it comes to our old negative patterns of thinking and feeling; producing in us “C 4” experiences that seem to “suddenly” descends on us and “grab” us by the throat!

 

“It’s been quite a ‘pattern interrupt’, a massive change of the old programming.”

- Kenny Loggins

 

The 3 principles explained above coupled with the 6 step pattern and the examples of interrupts can help not only to manage such experiences but to eventually replace them with new resourceful habits of thinking, believing and feeling. Blow away your “C 4” experiences with these strategies and start running your own brains!

 

 

 

“When people believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.”

-  Norman Vincent Peale

 

I hope you enjoy this short humorous clip, a “perfect” example of how “interrupts” can restore our sanity! Have fun!    

 

 

 

Think RADICALLY and stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world!

 

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company in Malaysia. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro –Semantics,USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS,USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA fromGordon University,Illinois,USA.

 

 

 

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