The “X” File

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“I just don’t seem to be able to control this feeling of being betrayed every time I meet him!” she barked. “Ok, what do you mean that you “don’t seem to be able to control this feeling of being betrayed”? “It just takes control over me whenever I see him, talk to him, hear his name or even see his picture…and he’s my brother!” “Seems like you know what triggers this “feeling” but have no control over it?” “Yes, that’s right, it’s almost like an “X file” experience, and it drives me crazy, and I feel the pain of betrayal all over again. I thought that I had dealt with this stuff but…..” “Ok, how long has this been happening” I asked her. “For the past 15 years!”

 

I liked how she referenced her experience as being “X File” like: as something mysterious, unconsciously overwhelming, controlling, and unexplainable; perhaps bordering on the “unexplainable”: and that the “truth” of this phenomenon was somewhere “out there”, beyond her understanding and comprehension. One thing for sure, it left her deeply conflicted, as though parts in her were at odds, between “feeling betrayed” and having “dealt with this stuff” and her relationship with “her brother”.

 

 

Have you had such an experience before, an “X” file like experience?

 

As human persons, many of us may have had such experiences, where we feel unconsciously driven or “trapped”  by a set of emotions, meanings, understandings and conclusions about a person, an event or even about ourselves that seem to work at a unconscious level, outside of our control, even after we have “dealt” with it. We may have made repeated conscious decisions to resolve the issue but despite our strong intentions, we feel pulled and programmed by old meanings, understandings and emotions which seem to have “a life” of its own.

 

Have you had such an experience before, an “X” file like experience?

 

As a semantic class of life (Korzybski, 1933/1994), human persons live, emote, experience, enjoy, suffer and feel conflicted, “controlled” and miserable because of our meanings, our Semantics: meanings that we formed in our heads from an event or experience that is embodies in our neurology. Meaning does not exist out there, as the famous “X Files” catch phase may suggest that “the truth is out there”, a thing produced in the world that “acts” on us mysteriously. Meaning is something that we do in our mind through the dynamic process of self reflection or “self reflective consciousness”: thinking about something and then have a second and a third and a fourth, etc. thoughts about that first thought, all the time extracting, adding and developing higher meanings. We then assign validity to it and it becomes our meaning, our reference for that person, event, etc.  

 

“As in human affairs, it takes a human mind or consciousness to create meaning. The original term goes back to the German word that designates “holding” something like an idea or representation “before the mind.”

 – L. Michael Hall, PhD, The Source Book of Magic

  

“Man – a being in search of meaning.”

- Plato

 

Take for example, a young boy is told by his mother that he is not allowed to cycle on the street after 5 pm and if he does so, something “bad” will happen to him as a punishment from God. Later the boy, out of excitement by the invitation of his friends, sneaks out after 5 pm and takes a ride down the street. Just as he turns the corner, he stumbles and falls, breaking his left arm. Wham, the words of his mother echo in his mind and he starts the “self reflective” process, abstracting meaning from the accident, the event out there, inside his mind.

 

 

He says to himself, “Wow, Mum was right. Her words are so powerful. She just told me and I went against it and got punished by God. God is Mum’s best friend. No, God must be like Mum. O my, God is always watching me and will punish me the minute I make the slightest mistake. I am doomed; somebody is watching me and keeping score. Between Mum and God, I have no chance. I am a bad boy and God does not like me, etc.” Now this process and the conclusions he draws can go “higher and higher” and each one validates the other and produces his meaning about his Mum, God and himself. This then becomes his higher “meaning frame” of mind which sticks with him into adulthood, habituating and dropping out of his consciousness or conscious awareness, but fully operational!

 

“You see, it’s never the environment; it’s never the events of our lives, but the meaning we attach to the events – how we interpret them – that shapes who we are today and who we’ll become tomorrow.”

-Tony Robbins

 

Then he starts to have those “X” file like experiences. Whenever he goes to church, he feels as though God is waiting there with a score card, waiting to punish him. He just can’t help feeling guilty, ashamed and “bad” all the time even though he consciously believes other wise. He keeps to every word that his 85 year old mother says, even in her advanced stage of Alzheimer’s disease, simply because he feels compelled to, afraid to even consider any alternative. So he keeps asking himself, “Why am I like this?”                 

 

Have you had such an experience before, an “X” file like experience?

 

There’s really nothing wrong with that poor guy, with you and with me. This is just how our Neuro Semantics works, how we consciously or unconsciously “abstract meaning”, “give meaning” and “connect the dots” in our heads while referencing an external event, happening, person or experience. To the degree of the emotional intensity involved, it gets programmed in us and over time and through repetition, becomes part of the ecology of our minds, as our basic frame of reference and automatic response – an “out consciousness” reaction. 

 

Now as we develop, grow into adulthood and start “dealing with stuff”, many of us start to make new “adult” meanings, assuming our powers of responsibility, self efficacy and meaning making powers to change our old meanings and create new empowering ones that serve us. But sometimes, the old programming, simply because they have become “hard core habits” and “out of consciousness” responses get triggered produces an “X” file like experience, generating responses in us that goes against our better judgments! This can leave us “conflicted”, wondering if something is wrong with us or if we are “bad” persons. Has that ever happened to you?

 

“Don’t be discouraged.  It’s often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock.”

-Anonymous

 

 

“That in man which cannot be domesticated is not his evil but his goodness.”

 - Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943

 

The solution is to simply invite these “unconscious” or automatic, habitual and default “programs” of behavior, emotions, and ways of perceiving and referencing, etc. into a new reorganization; to realign “conflicting” parts in order to create integration, self appreciation and harmony. It is never to “blame” or put ourselves at “odds” with the old programming simply because it did serve a positive intention at one time, so we honor it and realign them.

 

“How do I do this?” you may ask. In Neuro Semantics, we do this through the Six Step Reframe Process. Yes, as you can guess, it involves six relatively easy steps and can be done as many times as possible for any amount of “stuff” that we have. So are you ready for the six steps? Ok, here we go. Just one thing, when you choose to run this process, pick a time when you are relaxed and a place where you can be with yourself.         

          

1. Identify an “X” file like behavior, one that you find troublesome, one that you would like to have more choice about.

 Example: I have decided to want to do “X” but feel stopped, something seems to get in the way.

 

2. Establish communication with the “part” that produces that behavior.

 As you go inside, ask yourself, “Will the “part” of me that generates this behavior communicate with me in consciousness?

 As you quiet yourself and notice how you begin to respond within, notice any internal responses: feelings, images and sounds. What did you find?

 Thank that part of you that has agreed to be in consciousness and ask it for an agreement and answer, “Yes” by a single tap of your finger or “No” with a double tap, if it has not agreed. Seek an agreement of “Yes”.

 If you get a “No”, then ask, “Would you agree to trust that your unconscious has some well- intentioned and positive purpose for you, even though it won’t tell you at this moment.”

 

3. Discover its positive intention. (Separate the intention from the behavior)

 As you go in, ask, “Would you agree to let me know in consciousness what you seek to accomplish that is positive for you by producing this behavior? Wait for a response.

The point to be made here is that the unconscious has a positive reason for the behavior it chooses. It is doing the best it can with the information it has.         

 Once you have this positive intention, ask, “Do I find this intention acceptable in consciousness?” 

 If you had other ways to accomplish this positive intent that would work as well as or better then this behavior, ask your unconscious if it would agree to try them out?

 Get agreement and thank your unconscious.

“People’s behavior makes sense if you think about it in terms of their goals, needs, and motives”

-Thomas Mann

 

4.  Access your creative side and find an alternative behavior.   

Ask your creative part to identify a behavior or behaviors that will satisfy the positive intention in some way that does not have the unwanted side effects that the unwanted “X” file behavior has.

Example, suppose the unwanted behavior is smoking. Then the positive intention might be to feel glamorous. The alternate behavior might be to treat yourself to a spa, facial or make over treatment.

Or the unwanted behavior may be being overly aggressive. The positive intention is to own and have your voice. The alternative behavior is to learn to be assertive and firmly but gently voice out your opinion, speak your minds and express your voice. 

You may create more than one alternative behavior. 

  

5. Get buy in.

 Ask the unconscious mind if it is prepared to try the new behavior, or choose one of the alternative behaviors if you have created more then one, for a fixed period of time.

 Get agreement.

 

6. Run an ecology check.

 Is there any part of you that objects to having this or one of these alternative behaviors?

 Are you fully aligned? If yes, thanks your unconscious.

 

 “I am Me”.

 In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself.

 I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts.

  I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

  However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do.

  I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”

 -Virginia Satir

 

There you go, the Six Step Reframe Process. You maybe wondering what happened to the lady I spoke about at the start of this blog. Well, she stopped having those “X” file like experiences and she didn’t need the help of agents Mulder and Scully! The “truth” after all was right inside her.     

 

The clip below by the founder of Neuro Semantics, L. Michael Hall, PhD, gives us a clear understanding about the term “unconscious” that many of us use but few truly understand. It’s not so “scary” stuff after all, enjoy! 

 

CATCH ME THIS COMING FRIDAY, THE 30th OF SEPTEMBER 2011 ON THE BERNAMA TV BREAKFAST SHOW AT 9.30AM ONWARDS! ITS ON ASTRO CHANNEL 502, SEE YOU THERE.  

  

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company based in Malaysia. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro – Semantics, USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, USA.

“The Secret”

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Do you work out? Are you a gym member? If your answer is yes, then like me, you may have noticed a rather common phenomenon at the gym. Out of 100 folks who work out, perhaps only 3 to 10 seem to make physical changes that could be seen as evidence of their efforts. This could either be weight loss, muscle gain or both. Have you noticed this?  The statics indicate that perhaps only 5% – 10% of folks will realize their fitness outcomes even if they hire a personal trainer.  The question that intrigued me is this, what separates the 5% or 10% from the 90% to 95%’s? Is there a secret to their success and is this secret applicable to other areas of life, be it work, family, social or even spiritual based activities?

 

Is there a secret? “The Secret”? 

 

 

If you visit most book stores, you’ll come across a large “literature buffet” that offers the secret or the keys that will get you into the 5% or 10% club. From quantum physics to “the secret” of using the law of attraction, from “proven and guaranteed” diet plans to scientific exercise regimes that promise “little or no pain but plenty of gain” or “zero – effort ways to look ripped” for the busy modern day urbanite; all of them seemingly possessing the secret.

Is that the secret?

 

Walk into any drug or heath food store and you’ll see shelves of products, from creams to meal replacements and supplements, which claim to hold the secret within them. All one needs to do is to purchase and consume. It’s really that simple, the rest will be taken cared of by the “secret ingredients” in the product. 

 

Is this the secret?

 

Visit most exercise equipment stores and you are bound to see “amazing gadgets and massagers” that will deliver the secret to you. All one needs to do is to purchase and use. It could be as comfortable as wearing a “belt” around ones waist or standing or sitting on a “violently” vibrating machine.      

 

Is that the secret?

 

Open the newspaper or simply take a drive down town and you’ll see “specialized centers” that will “apply the secret” on you. Yes, that’s right. Simply sign on, walk in, jump on to a comfortable bed and doze off to sleep. The rest will be taken cared of by “the agents of the secret” who, after 38 sessions or so, will deliver amazing results. Just look at the proven testimonies of the “before” and “after” photos. 

 

 

Is this the secret?

 

The question is this, “Is the secret a “bike”, a “diet formula”, a “secret weight loss and muscle gain ingredient”, a “massage belt”, a “book”, a “treatment centre” or a “specialized training program”, etc.? If the secret any one of these, then we can be sure of one thing, they were available and was used by a significant number of folks in the 90% club who achieved minimal or near zero results. Or they may have attained some results but soon gained back all the weight they had lost.

 

So what’s the secret? While all the elements mentioned above can assist, the real secret is between ones ears; its ones attitude and Neuro Semantics about achieving the set outcome: weight loss and muscle gain. This separates the 10% from the 90%!  

 

 

Let’s first start by defining the word attitude. The origin of the word “attitude” is traced to the Latin word “aptitudo” meaning “fitness” and is directly linked with the word “aptitude.” Aptitude is defined as an inclination, a tendency and capacity for learning. Hence attitude is associated with posture; our physical, mental and emotional posture towards a certain fact or situation. In this case, weight loss, muscle gain, looking attractive and sexy, feeling energetic and confident.

 

Now this is directly link with ones Neuro Semantics, which are the meanings, the internal references and frame of mind that we have towards a certain fact, situation or outcome; in this case being weight loss, muscle gain, looking attractive, feeling energetic and confident. Our inner meanings, beliefs and conclusions, our Semantics, is what we take as being “real” inside us which in turn leads us to experiences it as being “real” in our entire neurology, hence the term Neuro Semantics. This then produces the corresponding state which produces the resulting behavior. In a nut shell then, the secret is all about this “inner game” of ours which then gets translated into our “outer game” which is our actions, behaviors and habits that “makes real” our intended outcomes.

 

“In life there are two games. It doesn’t always seem that way. It seems that there is only one game – the outer game, the game of what we do, our achievements, our performances, our actions, whether we hit a home run and celebrate with the winning team, or limp off the field in defeat. Actually, above and beyond the outer game is the inner game where the real action takes place.”

- L. Michael Hall Ph.D, “Winning the Inner Game”

 

To the degree that we have rich and robust meanings that are constantly refreshed and then translated into behavior which then gets fed back and reinforces our inner game, the more we produce the actions and habits that “makes real” our outcomes.  This feed back and feed forwarding dynamics between our inner and outer game drives performance, sustains effort, helps us develops flexible strategies in order to perform our highest and best intentions. On the other hand, when we have weak and poor meanings, our inner game, to that extent will we produce weak and poor behavior, our outer game which then gets fed back and reinforces our weak inner game.

 

“All of our outer games of performance are determined by our inner game of our mental and emotional frames.”

- L. Michael Hall Ph.D, “Winning the Inner Game”

 

The chart below, which is called aptly called the Meaning and Performance Axes, clearly illustrates this point. 

 

Peak performance which is performance that actualizes ones highest and best intentions, potential and abilities is at QUABRANT 4, HIGH MEANING, HIGH PERFORMANCE, where one has rich and robust meanings that are translated into right behavior and actions. Here the right physical, emotional and mental “posture”, the right attitude, exists towards the outcome: getting physically fit, attractive, energized and looking attractive which is “muscled” into the right physical activities and behaviors, nutritional plan and rest. These habits, strategies and tactics are bolstered by empowering beliefs, meanings and values which produce peak performance and sustain meaningful and consistent effort. This is the zone of the 5% to 10% club! 

 

At QUADRANT 1 we have LOW MEANING, LOW PERFORMANCE, where poor meanings get translated into poor behavior and actions. Here strategies and tactics are poor and inferior and are poorly executed because they are bolstered by disempowering beliefs, weak meanings and values. One has no interest and weak self beliefs in ones ability and worth to get fit, sexy, energized and healthy. Excuses are made to hide this “internal reality”: “I’m not the exercising kind”, “I was born this way”, “O, I have tried all this fads before, and they do not work.”     

 

QUADRANT 3, HIGH MEANING, LOW PERFORMANCE, is the zone where one has rich meanings, values and intentions but is plagued by low performance because of weak and outdated strategies and tactics. Here practical “know how and how to” is needed. The classic case of individuals who have big dreams and plans but with little execution and “realization” of them simply because they do not knowing what practical steps to take to perform their higher intentions. Or the individual who have the best of intentions and plans buy has weak “execution muscles”, meaning that no action takes place. The classic example being folks who make resolutions at the turn of the New Year but hardly ever have a action plan or strategy and hence never quite get to the starting line of execution.     

 

QUADRANT 2, LOW MEANING, HIGH PERFORMANCE, is the zone where one is active and industrious in taking tireless action but lacks the rich meanings and beliefs to generate meaningful performance, which is peak performance. The “why” or the motivation behind performance is weak and poor and this leads to meaningless behavior, burn out and eventual failure. The classic example being the proverbial “hamster athlete” or individual who is busy with activity but who don’t seem to be going anywhere and suffers from meaningless activity.        

 

 

The secret lies in QUADRANT 4. In HIGH MEANING: in ones rich Neuro Semantics, in ones positive physical, emotional and mental “posture” towards fitness and well being, ones INNER GAME. And in HIGH PERFORMANCE: the making real of the inner game, the execution of ones Semantics in ones entire Neurology through right strategy and tactics. This then get fed back into ones inner game and reinforces and validates ones the rich meanings which then get fed back into ones Neurology through further action and behavior. It is this dynamic feed back and feed forwarding self reinforcing loop that produces consistent and persistent behaviors that turn into habits that help make real the outcome – this being peak performance.

 

 

“As goes your inner game, so goes your outer game.”

- L. Michael Hall Ph.D, “Winning the Inner Game”

 

 

What is your Neuro Semantics about getting fit, looking sexy, working out, feeling energized and gaining confidence? What is your physical, emotional and mental “posture”, your attitude, toward getting a fit and attractive body? What’s your Neuro Semantics about being able to wear attractive clothing and feeling good about yourself in public while “turning heads”?

 

How are you referencing the energizing activity and behavior of working out, stretching, dancing, having active fun exercising and generating a good sweat that invigorates and produces restful sleep every night?

 

What are your meanings behind food? Is food for comfort or for fueling the body to enable it to remain active, energized and healthy in order to serve your highest and best intentions?

 

Can you visualize yourself looking, feeling and sounding fitter and attractive while hearing the positive comments of others and the looks admiration that you’ll get?

 

Do you feel that you are worth it? Would you like to own your God given powers to think, feel, speak and behave, as well as exercise your POWER OF CHOICE, to act in ways that will enable you to realize your best physical, emotional and mental self?      

 

You may now go ahead and review your Neuro Semantics, your current frames of mind and meanings (Meaning here is not about “knowing” which what mere intellectual knowledge is. It’s about but your beliefs, conclusions, judgments, understandings, presuppositions, decisions, etc. that makes things “real” inside your Neurology), about the above by simply reviewing the questionnaire below:

 

    

When we loose meaning or experience deterioration in our Neuro Semantics, our attitude, our INNER GAME, we can drop into either quadrant 1 or 2. Alternatively when we lack the muscle to execute our inner meaning, our INNER GAME, we drop into quadrant 3.

 

“Men are not disturbed by things, but their estimate of things.”

- Marcus Aurelius

 

Now we’ll look at some examples of successful athletes and model their QUADRANT 4 Neuro Semantics to help us produce QUADRANT 4 attitudes and behaviors.      

 

Sir Steven Redgrave: He won 4 Olympic Gold Medals in the coxless pair (1988 Seoul, 1992 Barcelona, 1996 Atlanta, 2000 Sydney) and 1 in the coxed four (1984 Los Angeles):

 

“At the start of my career I had a belief that I could be one of the world’s best rowers. There wasn’t a lot of evidence behind that but I went into my career with this belief that I could win races and that carries you a long way…….. But you have to reinvent yourself every time because staying at the same level isn’t going to be good enough.”

(Source: Men’s Fitness, September 2011)

 

Here we see evidence of QUADRANT 4 qualities; HIGN MEANING, his belief that he could be “one of the world’s best rowers” which was real in his Semantics and HIGH PERFORMANCE, the performance of this in his Neurology through action. At the same time we see the dynamic feed back and feed forwarding self reinforcing loop between his Inner and Outer Game that produced consistent and persistent behaviors that turned into habits that “made real” his outcome, winning 5 Olympic Gold Medals.

 

  • What new beliefs and meanings can you have about getting fit and working out?
  • What new beliefs about yourself, your worth, your abilities and capability to get fit, look amazing and feel physically confident can you develop as “evidence” to produce the right behaviors?

  

Daley Thompson: He won 2 Olympic Gold Medals in the decathlon (1980 Moscow, 1984 Los Angeles).

“I never considered what I did as being highly pressured. I loved every moment at the big competitions. It was where I felt most at home….Enjoy it.”

(Source: Men’s Fitness, September 2011)

 

Evidence of Quadrant 4 qualities: His attitude towards his sport, the training he put in and competing at the highest level. These rich meanings, HIGH MEANING, produced peak performance in training and in competition, his outer game, HIGH PERFORMANCE! It made his fitness regime and competing enjoyable!

  • What new empowering meanings and beliefs can you frame regarding working out?
  • Can you make them fun and enjoyable?  Can you infuse working out with a sense of excitement, experimentation, variety and play?    

 

 Chris Boardman: He won an Olympic Gold Medal (1992 Barcelona) in the individual pursuit and a Bronze Medal (1996 Atlanta) in the 52km time trial.

You can have the best physical capability in the world but if you can’t perform at a given moment then you’re not going to maximize your potential. I boiled it down to – and it sounds cheesy – not actually trying to win an Olympic gold medal but just trying to be as good as I could be.”

(Source: Men’s Fitness, September 2011)

 

Evidence of Quadrant 4 qualities: His HIGH MEANING of simply wanting to be the best that he could be, to actualize his full potential, stretching and grow produced HIGH PERFORMANCE. This is the secret of the QUADRANT 4 attitude and Neuro Semantics, approaching anything with the highest intention of actualizing ones fullest potential! 

 

  • What new meaning can you frame about your purpose and intention of working out, getting fit, healthy, confident and attractive?
  • Can it simply be about being the best that you can be, actualizing your full physical potential while doing away with excuses or trying “to be like” someone else?

 

Lord Sebastian Coe: He won 2 Olympic Gold Medals in the 1,500 (1980 Moscow, 1984 Los Angeles) meters and 2 Olympic Silver Medals in the 800 meters (1980 Moscow, 1984 Los Angeles).

 

“It’s about maintaining extraordinary levels of focus for when it matters, then begin able to switch off, and then switch on again.

Nothing in sport happens overnight. And there are days when you just do things that you have to do. Road work at 6.30 in the morning……but it’s what you have to do if you want to win medals.”

(Source: Men’s Fitness, September 2011)

 

Evidence of Quadrant 4 qualities: His HIGH MEANINGS about performing when “it matters” in order to produce HIGH PERFORMANCE. This is coupled with his ability of being able to switch off to relax, attend to other matters and live a balanced life.

 

His attitude about the “process” of becoming a world class athlete, the patience it would require, the journey as “nothing…happens overnight” and the attitude of “just doing it” even on difficult days is driven by his rich meanings about his outcome that produced in him persistence, resilience, discipline, flexibility, etc. This produced the winning habits of peak performance.

 

  • What new meaning can you attach to working out that will produce in you the drive to create a sense of “focused – ness” when its time to work out as well as a sense of being balanced, knowing when to switch off and avoid excessiveness?
  • What rich meaning about your highest intentions and purpose for getting fit and healthy can you form to help you embrace “weight loss and getting fit and attractive” as a journey and process?
  • What rich meanings about your highest intentions and purpose for getting fit and healthy can you form to help you develop the qualities of discipline, resilience, persistence and flexibility to help you “just do it” and “keep on doing it” even on challenging days?      

 

 Jonathan Edwards: He won an Olympic Gold (2000 Sydney) and Silver Medal in the triple jump (1996 Atlanta).

“I was never the most positive thinker leading up to a competition. I’d have all sorts of doubts, fears and insecurities. But I learned that they didn’t affect my performance so I didn’t get too worked up about the fact that I didn’t feel confident.”

(Source: Men’s Fitness, September 2011)

 

Evidence of Quadrant 4 qualities: His HIGH MEANING about his purpose, his intended outcome and capability enabled him to “learn” how to brush aside his doubts, fears and insecurities” in order to generate HIGH PERFROMANCE.

 

  • What new, empowering and robust meaning can you develop to help you “learn” to brush aside any doubts, fears and insecurities that you may have about working out and getting fit?
  • Can these same meanings serve to keep you motivated when faced by the inevitable setbacks? Can they help you “learn” to move over them gracefully while learning their lessons?    

 

The above can help you create QUADRANT 4, HIGH MEANING, HIGH PERFROMANCE, attitudes and behaviors to realize your fitness and wellness outcomes. It’s the secret of those in the 5% – 10% club, it’s in fact the SECRECT behind every successful endeavor! Do you remember that at the start of this blog, we were questioning for the secret of successful weight loss and muscle gain which could also be applied to almost every area of life? Well, this is it. The Quadrant 4 Neuro Semantics! This is at the heart and soul of Neuro Semantics, which is the heart and soul of peak performance and self actualization. Welcome to a whole new world!        

 

Have you found the secret yet?

 

I do hope you enjoy the clip below, an interview with the founder of Neuro Semantics, Dr. Michael Hall PhD on Neuro Semantics. 

Neuro Semantic Interview in New Zealand

Stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world!

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company based in Malaysia. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro – Semantics, USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, USA.