Staying Alive!

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I remember this incident that took place a few of years ago. I was then contemplating to become a Certified NLP – Neuro Semantic Licensed Trainer with another Meta Master Practitioner.  Part of me wanted to do it badly; it was something I had dreamt about since my first NLP Practitioner Certification (yes, I have done a couple of those!). Why? Simply because NLP – Neuro Semantic worked. It helped me become aware of how I was currently running my brains (ok, how I had allowed others to run it!) and created my meanings. More importantly, it equipped me with the necessary resources, skills, strategies, models and patterns to take charge of my meaning making powers, run my own brains, manage my state and tailor my behavior to meet my highest and best intentions!       

Another part of me, however, resisted signing up and taking the plunge. I was afraid of attending the course, afraid of being evaluated, examined, pushed and stretched to meet the strict benchmarks set by Dr. Michael Hall PhD, the founder of Neuro Semantics. Have no doubt, I wanted to become a Licensed and Certified Trainer but I feared the cost I would have to pay it, for success. So I kind of created a limiting frame of mind about how difficult and challenging succeeding was going to be; how much I would have to sacrifice and pay for my fees, flight and accommodation, be benchmarked in front of strangers, sit for a written examination, complete a modeling project, draw up a business plan, etc. In short, I was afraid of succeeding. Setting up “residence” in the uncomfortable “stretch zone” of growth and self actualization sounded too scary.    

“Half of the failures in life come from pulling one’s horse when he is leaping.”

-Thomas Hood    

 So I began playing movies of pain in my mind, recalling memories of my past disappointments, of my incompetency and how I am at my worst! As you can guess, when you approach anything  with such a frame of mind, of what you are like at your worst, you are bound to play it safe, put an end to growth, avoid the “stretch zone” and auction away your dreams, passion and highest and best intentions! This is certainly not the way of staying alive, for staying alive to ones dreams and passion!    
    

What I discovered is that the “fears success” is real and affects most of us at some stage of our life. This “fear of success” brings with itself a “family of cognitive limitations” which includes, but is not limited, to the following:    

   

  • A sense of not being worth it, of not deserving to be successful and living our dreams.  Perhaps we have arrived at such conclusions because of past disappointments or set backs which we took as feedback indicating that we were of little or no worth.   
  • That success is impossible for oneself personally! Yes, we may get lucky occasionally but to consciously apply oneself to attain ones outcome is impossible.
  • Believing that we lack the caliber and capability to be exceptional. That succeeding would demand too much of us simply because we lacked the capacity, talent and skills required. That we lack the “mental and emotional fuel” for the work of excellence which requires practice, learning, sacrifice, discipline, focus and learning from our mistakes. 
  • That it the cost would be too much. In what way? In the way that our current reality or status quo already offers us some positive outcome and the striving after something new, though exciting, may rob us of our current sense of equilibrium. So, we say that “it costs too much” and settle for less.  

   

 

The fear of success is more subtle and destructive than its notorious sibling, the fear of failure! How so? Well, one can certainly “huff and puff” and claim to want something badly, to confidently desire success but give “water proof” excuses that sound socially acceptable to mask hidden fears and avoid taking the plunge! We have all heard such lines before; “I wanted/ desired/ actually planned to __________ but __________ maybe when the time is right, I’ll__________.” How destructive can it be?   It’ll stop us from staying alive to our inner vision of what we are truly are capable of achieving and realizing. It is the road that leads to the abortion of our gifts and talents at the alter of indifference and inertia!     

   

“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?”

-Vincent van Gogh

 

So what steps we can take to overcome our fear of success? Firstly we need to identify and recognize the AREAS OF OUR LIFE where such fears exist. Then we can ask ourselves these questions:  

    

  • What am I truly afraid of? What “stretching” am I avoiding in choosing not to succeed? Imagine the greater loss of the loss of self respect, self efficacy and confidence in not succeeding.
  • What are the risks you are afraid of taking? Are they based on irrational/ superstitious presumptions? (Example: If I try and do not succeed, I’ll bring shame to my family. I can’t risk shaming my family.)     
  • In what ways do I feel undeserving of success? How did I arrive at such a conclusion/ belief? Who told you so? According to who’s perception of your true value and worth? Remember that the past does not equal the future! The past is simply what it is, the past. 
  • What are the benefits of my current situation that I am afraid of loosing, that will be lost when I achieve the success I desire? What are the costs and benefits of your success? Deal with them and move on.

  

“Come to the edge,” he said.

They said: “We are afraid.” “Come to the edge,” he said. They came.

He pushed them …. and they flew.”

- Guillaume Apollinaire

    

Secondly identify the MEANING that succeeding gives you. This is the power of WHY, the power of our Neuro Semantics! 
Ask yourself:   

  • What does succeeding mean for you? Is this meaning important to you? How important?
  • What would it give you that you other wise would not already have? What would this mean for you? It this meaning important for you? How important? 
  • What would you regret if you choose not to succeed? What would this mean to you today, tomorrow and at the end of your life?

    

“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we often might win, by fearing to attempt.”

-William Shakespeare  

 

Lastly you’ll need to take all the answers to the question above and place them in the context of the answer to this question:    

 

WHAT ARE YOU LIKE WHEN YOU ARE AT YOUR BEST?

 

Ask yourself this question over and over again and access as many memories as you can of what you feel, sound and look like when you are at your best. Access, describe and anchor yourself to this “best state” of yours. Make it your “magical state” you’ll access to take the needed steps in realizing your outcomes. Access it in the future to help you seek solutions to problems, to seek out needed resources, to model the success of others who have achieved what you are aiming for and to remain resolute and determined in your journey to success!

     

 

“Fear of success can also be tied into the idea that success means someone else’s loss. Some people are unconsciously guilty because they believe their victories are coming at the expense of another.”

-Harvey, Joan C. 

   

 Coming back to my own story, well here I am today a Certified and Licensed NLP- Neuro Semantic Trainer under the International Society of Neuro Semantics USA. The journey was challenging, the “stretch” was enormous. I was tested in more way than one BUT I realized my dream, faced my fears and achieved success. When I did, I made myself this promise; I would share my journey, learnings, the technology of NLP and Neuro Semantics to do whatever I could to help others to break free of limiting thoughts, beliefs and states, to help them self actualize, create richer meanings  and achieve the success they deserve! Why? Simply because it has to do with STAYING ALIVE!    

        

The ancient Greek definition of happiness was the full use of your powers along lines of excellence.”

- John F. Kennedy, 1917-1963    

    

 

Who were the folks who were responsible for challenged me to break free of my fears of success? Two persons in particular, first my wife who supported me and encouraged me to quit analyzing and just make it happen, who always recalled all I had already achieved and encouraged me to “ride on” with this confidence and efficacy. The other person is one of my best friends, Mohamed Abdul-Kawy who graduated with me as a Licensed and Certified Trainer. This “big Egyptian” (he’s really an Egyptian!) kept challenging me with these questions: “What’s stopping you? What’s the worst that could happen? What would happen to your dreams and “living your passion” if you did nothing at all? If you did nothing, what would you regret in the days, weeks and months to come? What have you got to loose?” Hey Mohamed, if you are reading this blog, thanks a million. To my wife……I am grateful everyday! My friends, again, why is this so important? Because it’s about STAYING ALIVE and living with passion!           

    

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.    

 Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.     

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.     

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?     

Actually, who are you not to be?    

 Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.     

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are meant to shine, as children do….and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.    

 As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Williamson from ‘A Return to Love’    

    

I trust you’ll love this clip by Veronica and her simple strategies for overcoming fear below. Go ahead, enjoy and  live with passion!    

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro – Semantics, USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, USA.

   

 

 

A Strategy for Self Sabotage!

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“I will never be happy until I own my BMW. Until then, I will not rest!” These were the words of a young man I encountered at one of my trainings. He came across as a “high strung”, “type A” individual who found it hard to stay still. He was famished for success, extremely competitive and aggressive. He wanted to be a multi million air by the age of 35. His strategy was really quite simple: to do whatever it takes to arrive at his goal and keep himself in a “dissatisfied mode” until he arrived at his “promise land”. 

 

While I admired his determination and his sense of clarity of what he wanted, I was curious about the “dissatisfied mode” he kept himself as a form of motivation. So I inquired, “Tell me about the “dissatisfied mode” that you keep yourself in to motivate yourself? What does it feel like? Where do you feel it?  What do you hear or keep telling yourself? What do you see? What are the images that come to mind? What are your ideas and understanding about this “mode”?” After a short pause he said, “To put in simple terms, I keep telling myself that I am a lesser person and a looser until I get what I want. I keep reminding myself of all my failures and how inferior I am until I get my outcome.”

 

“This keeps me pushing myself. I keep telling myself that whatever I am doing now or have achieved so far is never enough and has no value unless I produce my goal perfectly.  I just keep devaluing myself. I feel restless, tensed, insecure and anxious. It’s this cocktail of thoughts and feelings that keeps me feeling rushed and impatient, it keep me “hungry”. Wow! OK, I thought to myself, this guy may just have a perfect strategy for self sabotage!

 

 

“A person’s worst enemy can’t wish on him what he can think up himself.”

-Yiddish Proverb

 

So, I asked him, “Do you ever feel tired? Out of breath and burned out?” “Yes, I do get these feelings, sometimes I wonder if all this “intense stress” is worth it, but I simply push on and tell myself that these are the very feelings that prove to me I am a looser unless I attain my “promise land”; that’s the only place I’ll be truly happy.” Wow, no make that a double WOW! I just could not believe what I heard. This surely was a strategy for self sabotage!

 

I believe that it is important for folks to have an outcome that is clear, that they are passionate about. It’s even better if they set an “evidence criteria” to let themselves know if they are getting closer to their outcome or not, accept responsibility for it, be flexible in their approach and strategies and as well as have a timeline. But it is another thing all together to “set oneself against oneself” in the pursuit of ones outcome as well as turn the journey towards it a “living hell”!

 

Many of us have the faulty notion that in order to excel, to achieve our outcomes, we have to constantly “beat and bully” ourselves into a psychological and emotional pulp of insecurity and worthlessness. Heck that was the way I was brought up! My parents, God bless them, thought that in order for me to excel, to become smart and intelligent, I needed negative reinforcement. I needed to be reminded of my errors so that I would not make the same error, be discouraged even I achieved a good result in order to keep me striving for even better results.

 

 

I got the impression that my self esteem and value was not in “me being me” but in the results I produce, my performance and the attainment of my outcomes. Consequently unrelenting doubts and paralyzing fear of not attaining my goals, which meant I was worthless, became part of my daily neuro linguistic and neuro semantic reality!

 

“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”

- Norman Vincent Peale

 

This sapped much emotional energy and sent stress and anxiety levels soaring whenever I did my daily work, studies or activities! Though I did achieve some of my outcomes, my internal communication and world view of my abilities and capability was not motivating or productive at all. To be honest, over time, I began to avoid challenges and higher goals simply because my internal mental strategies and self beliefs were too painful! They became my unconscious strategy for self sabotage!

 

“Self-trust is the first secret of success.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

So you may guess that, when I heard of the young man’s “dissatisfied mode”, I got curious and wanted to explore his mental strategies. Why? Well to save him from much physiological and emotional pain as well as to demythologize the myth and false belief that this “dissatisfied mode” is really helpful, that it’s sacrosanct for success, helps prevent “screw ups” and puts us in our most resourceful state for excellence! This is simply not true because we are fundamentally creating a schism within ourselves, putting ourselves at odds with our very selves, creating self doubt and uncertainty as well as breeding negative self beliefs about our ability, capabilities and potential! In Neuro Semantics we call this a dragon state, a state that produces negative stress and tension, fear, dreadfulness, worry, pessimism, self contempt and self rejection, anger and being over serious! Now, if we repeat such behaviors over a long period of time, they’ll drop into our unconscious and become our unconscious self sabotaging mental strategies and self beliefs!

  

“Dragon states undermine our success, effectiveness and health. They lack an ecological balance and do not serve us well.”

- Dr. L. Michael Hall, PhD, “Dragon Slaying”

 

Take for example the person who has decided that he wants to earn a five figure income. Once he has done so, he consequently chooses the strategies he will use as well as set a time line. Then he starts taking action but slowly begins to procrastinate, delays taking effective action and begins to loose interest. He begins to sabotage his own efforts. Why? Simply because he may unconsciously believe that he is not worthy of earning such an income and that the “dissatisfied mode” he has to put himself in to attain his outcome is too painful and stressful, it’s just not worth it! On the other side of the coin, he may simply react the way the young man did, use this “dissatisfied mode” as his modus operandi of attaining his outcome; consequently creating massive internal stress and tension.   

 

What can we do to eliminate self sabotaging behavior? Well, first of all we can become aware of any such behavior, mental strategies and beliefs. And to acknowledge that they offer us no real value! They’ll only eat away at our efforts, put us in counter productive state, rob us of all passion and desire as well as snub the creative expression of our talents, potential and capabilities!

Next, we can learn to model the beliefs and mental strategies of successful individuals. If we study their lives, their journey to success and their ability to maintain success, we’ll discover their empowering beliefs and mental strategies! While there’s no guarantee that we’ll get 100% of their results, modeling will help shorten our learning curve, avoid common mistakes and well as offer us a “tried, tested and proven” neuro linguistic (thought strategies and states) and neuro semantic (higher meanings and beliefs) strategies. One thing you’ll discover about these models of success is that they held empowering beliefs about themselves, their capability and outcomes and never employed any kind of “dissatisfied mode” mental strategies, even when they faced set backs, delays and massive discouragement!

“If I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.”

-Gandhi

 

What I have for you below are a few models of successful individuals and their empowering beliefs. I hope they will serve as some kind of impetus for you to build a strong and positive propulsion system to empower you to realize your outcomes and avoid self sabotage.

  

So, are you ready to remap and reprogram yourself for success with empowering mental strategies and beliefs?  Let’s get started……                   

  

 

Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hensen.

Their book “Chicken Soup for the Soul” was rejected by over 140 publishers. Not one of these publishers thought that it was “readable” material, much less become a bestseller. Well, it eventually did and sold more than 100 million copies and launched the Chicken Soup series phenomena, making both of them rich and famous!

 

“You have to believe it’s possible and believe in yourself. Because after you’ve decided what you want, you have to believe it’s possible, and possible for you, not just for other people. Then you need to seek out models, mentors, and coaches.”

- Jack Canfield

 

Colonel Sander.

If you like the taste of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC), you will wonder why Colonel Sander’s idea was rejected 1009 times over a period of 2 years!  

 

“I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could. And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me. And I have done that ever since, and I win by it. I know.”

- Colonel Sanders

 

Winston Churchill.

Winston Churchill makes the perfect role model for the advice: it’s never too old to get started. He was defeated in every election for public office until he finally became the Prime Minister at the age of 62. Churchill wasn’t known to be brilliant as a young child either. He struggled in school, and failed his sixth grade.

               

“I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else.”

- Winston Churchill

 

Donald Trump.

Donald Trump is a property magnet, author and television personality. He is listed by the Guinness Book of Records as having engineered the biggest financial turnaround in history.

 

“In the early 1990s, I owed billions of dollars and many people thought I was finished,” says Trump. “I refused to give in to the negative circumstances and I never lost faith in myself. I didn’t believe I was finished even when the newspapers were saying so. I refused to give up. Defeat is not in my vocabulary.”

- Donald Trump

 

Thomas Edison.

Thomas Edison was an American inventor who developed many life-changing devices like the phonograph and the light bulb. As a prolific inventor, he had more than 1,000 U.S. patents to his name. Nonetheless, when he was young, his teachers told him that he was “too stupid to learn anything”. In school, Edison’s mind often wandered and he only lasted 3 months, eventually he was homeschooled by his mother….did I mention that he was also hearing impaired?   

 

Eventually he was involved in the development of the motion picture camera. For developing the light bulb to great commercial success, he was most famous for the following quote…

 

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

- Thomas Edison

 

If any of these guys inspire you, go buy their autobiography, Google them and dive into their beliefs and mental strategies, model them and program yourself anew. As cited above, you’ll discover that they never had a strategy for self sabotaged or a “dissatisfied mode” mentality to achieve excellence and success! The fact that we have to accept is that we are always modeling somebody, either consciously or unconsciously, so we might as well consciously choose the folks we want to model!  

 

I hope you’ll enjoy the short clip below by Jack Canfield on his success principles and perhaps model some of them! (Go grab his book “The Success Principles” and empower yourself!)   

 

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro – Semantics, USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, USA.

“The lesson of Sasha Fierce.”

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“I just can’t do it! Every time I get up front to give my presentation I get nervous, forget at least 15% of my content, and feel a lack of confidence and nervous. Even though my presentation goes well, it simply fails to impress. It lacks that extra “something.” “How’s well do you prepare yourself for your presentations?” I asked him. “I follow your “Communicating with Mastery” methodology and practices. I prepare and rehearse my presentation, my cues and props…..and keep practicing like crazy, yet; I seem to be missing that little “difference that makes the difference” when I’m in front presenting. 

Ok, I said. I think it is time for me to introduce you to Sasha Fierce. “What? Who?!” was his reply. “You mean you have not heard of or met Sasha Fierce? She’s just what you need to access “the difference that makes the difference” I said. “Ok…..introduce me…….”

I got up and played Beyonce’ live performance of her hit “Crazy in Love”. He sat there mesmerized by her performance, her voice, her dance moves, her charisma, her on stage presence and energy that blew the audience away.  “Wow, that’s really the difference that makes the difference!” he said. “You, bet. That’s exactly what you need.”   

“Who do you think just performed?” I asked him. “Beyonce,” he answered. “No.” “No? Hey that was Beyonce, just go ask anybody.” “Well it was Beyonce but the person performing on stage was Sasha Fierce, her on stage alter ego. You see, Beyonce has an alter ego whenever she performs on stage, a “juiced up” performance state. That for her is “the difference that makes the difference”. It’s a state of “performance excellence” that she steps into.”

 

When Beyonce broke away from Destiny Child, she faced a degree of stage fright. In a way, she was now the lone performer on stage. Being a shy person by nature and this situation brought her a measure of stage fright, especially the idea of performing in front of thousands screaming fans. Live! Have no doubt; Beyonce had the talent, the skills, the voice, the complete package. She knew her “game”, practiced, worked hard, was detailed and simply loved what she did. In fact she loved singing, performing and always wanted to be a star. Nonetheless, she faced this issue which had the potential of making her performance seem just “normal.”  

Her solution was the creation of Sasha Fierce. Sasha Fierce became her on stage alter ego, the performance juggernaut version of Beyonce that separated her from her shy persona. Sasha was FIERCE, she was fearless, courageous, free, energetic, unconcerned about the opinions of others, spontaneous, fun, sensual, resourceful and engaging. Sasha Fierce brought out the “3 D” dimension of Beyonce’s performance and became the “difference that made the difference”!  The rest, as they say, is history.   

 

“I have someone else that takes over when it’s time for me to work and when I’m on stage, this alter ego that I’ve created that kind of protects me and who I really am. Sasha Fierce is the fun, more sensual, more aggressive, more outspoken side and more glamorous side that comes out when I’m working and when I’m on the stage.”

- Beyonce

 

In NLP and Neuro Semantic we call this developing your state of excellence. A “state” is a combination of our thoughts – how we are representing something, be it ourselves, the situation we are in or others, our emotions- they re the feelings that these thoughts generate in us and our physiology which generates a particular form of behavior from these. All three are one and mutually influences the other as mind and body are part of the same system and influences each other in a circular way.” 

“Excellence” is that quality of that “makes the difference” in whatever field one is engaged in; the qualities of being passionate, committed, resourceful, engaging, free, focused, spontaneous, fearless, wise, energetic, confident, uninhibited and totally absorbed in the task at hand. That quality where time disappears and you are in “the flow.”  

The opposite of the state of excellence is the state of fear, of self doubt, lacking confidence, of being internally shouted at by our inner critique, feeling uncertain, disengaged, anxious and self conscious. The main factor here is fear, perhaps the fear of looking silly and of our own greatness! No matter how much you prepare, practice, are skilled, talented and feel passionate about a particular field, your lack of developing a state of excellence when your perform will affect your performance. Fear and uncertainty will limit your possibilities!    

  

“We fear our highest possibilities. We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments, under the most perfect conditions, under conditions of greatest courage. We enjoy and even thrill to the godlike possibilities we see in ourselves in such peak moments. And yet we simultaneously shiver with weakness, awe and fear before these very same possibilities.”

- Abraham Maslow

 

Beyonce created Sasha Fierce! Top class athletes do the same whenever they are about to compete. They get into their own tailor made state of excellence, the world disappears and they are all there, highly focused, confident, engaged, congruent, fearless and not intimidated by their competitors or the surroundings; it’s the “difference that makes the difference” – your state of excellence!    

 

“Talent is that which is in a man’s power; genius is that in whose power a man is.”

-James Russell Lowell, Literary Essays

 

So what about you? Would you like to develop a state of excellence to step into to give the “difference that makes the difference?” Would you like a “Sasha Fierce”, an alter ego, in your field of expertise, in your passionate endeavors to raise your game and generate ever expanding peak performances? If your answer is yes, follow these steps below, to develop your own state of excellence, your own “Altered Ego State of Excellence”.

Just to let you know, this stuff works. Research has shown that your subconscious cannot tell the difference between real practice and imagined practice, hence what you create; your excellent “altered ego” state will produce its results in your entire neurophysiology! It is based on the NLP/Neuro Semantic presupposition, “Since memory and imagination use the same neurological circuits as external sensory awareness, they can powerfully influence our development.” So are you ready? Here we go, the steps to developing your ALTERED EGO STATE OF EXCELLENCE!

 

Step ONE: Identify an excellent state that you want.

What state would allow you to summon your capabilities and give you the confidence to perform a skill at your best, courageously?

(It would help if you identified the context. Is it for public speaking? Making an impactful sales pitch? It could be for a competitive sport or any other high performance needs that require that “state of excellence”)

 

Step TWO: Imagine a circle in front of you, large enough so that you can step into it.  Now imagine the state you require filling up this circle.

You can imagine a time when you were excellent at what you were doing, where everything went smoothly, you were energetic, confident, happy, fearless, creative, congruent, successful, engaging and balanced. If you don’t have a personal history or memory to access, you can just pretend and create it, remember, your subconscious cannot tell the difference.     

Imagine this “alter ego state” filling this circle. It could be a “Sasha Fierce”, a movie super hero, a living celebrity, legend or anyone you admire and want to model to get you into that state of excellence. Emotionally capture that feeling of excellence, visualize it. Again, remember your brain cannot tell the difference between a real history and an imagined one. So go ahead and have fun doing this! Be empowered!   

 

 

Step THREE: Imagine this circle filled with this resourceful state getting brighter and brighter. Give it a color, feeling, sound, texture and smell you like. Creatively represent it to yourself using all your sense to actually FEEL what it’s like to be in this state of your “altered ego of excellence”.

See yourself being energetic and confident….fully visualizing your posture, balance and confidence, hearing what you will be saying and feeling the torrents of pride , greatness, resourcefulness and calmness filling all around and inside you.

Step FOUR: As you stand outside the circle, use your imagination to increase the qualities of your “alter ego of excellence” represented there. Amplify all that you have imagined. What is it like to have all of these qualities at 1000%? What would you be seeing? What would you be hearing and feeling? Keep amplifying, amplifying, and amplifying until you reach “boiling point”! Does it feel good, powerful and amazing? Do you like it?  

When you have added enough detail and resources and fully recreated the experience, step into this “alter ego of excellence” you have created within the circle and notice how you feel, look and sound like! Bath yourself with this experience!

Anchor it by giving it a name, a figure or posture and aura. It could be “Sasha Fierce”, “Super Nova”, “Joe Juggernaut”, etc. This would enable you to reassess this state anytime you need it in the future.

 

Step FIVE: Now step out of the circle.  Look at that “alter ego state” you have created and named. Now step back into it and experience it again. Consider what it looks and feels like to own these qualities of excellence.

When would you need to be performing from this state in the future? Where would you be, in what circumstances and with whom? Absorb fully this state, the name you have given it and notice how quickly you will be able to allow yourself to totally recall and step into this state in the future whenever you need it.

 

Step SIX: Step out of the circle. Now you have your own “Sasha Fierce” weapon of excellence. Do you like it? Will you keep it? Own it!

There you go six simple steps you can take to create your own “Altered Ego State of Excellence.”

Remember, this NLP/Neuro Semantic pattern does not actually create competence in a skill you desire. It assumes commitment, practice and competency is already in place. (One needs to be aware of the important difference between confidence and competence!)

When ability is not enough and a dose of confidence is required, especially in stressful conditions, just before you walk up on stage to perform or make a critical sales presentation, this exercise works miracles. Keep practicing the steps above until accessing your “altered ego self” becomes effortless!  It can be used for any situation that your desire to generate excellence; public speaking, sales presentations or closings, marketing, business development, sports, etc. 

Back to my client who I was coaching: well, he did meet “Sasha Fierce”, learned the lesson and created his own “altered ago state of excellence.” It helped him access “the difference that makes the difference” and is today rocking his world! What about you? Are you ready to rock your world?

As a treat, allow me to leave you with the clip of Beyonce’s “Crazy in Love” live performance by “Sasha Fierce”. It is one of my favorites and has helped me create my own “altered ego state of excellence.” Enjoy and may it inspire you to create your own state of excellence too! 

 

 

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro – Semantics, USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, USA.