Old dogs and wise tales

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“Why oh why do we think that extreme individualism and egoism is the formula for success?” These were the words that rolled off the lips of an old man who resided at an old folk’s home near my home. He was 72 years old, was the former General Manager of a renowned FMCG company, had three children who had left him at the home for his “own good” because they had their life to live, had 6 grand children who he admired greatly and was a widower.

 

Don’t get me wrong, he was not complaining. Perhaps he had a sense of fatalism, as he believed that everything that happened to him was fated. What he believed was not a matter of fate was attitude! He kept telling me that what younger folks these days lacked was the wisdom of the old, which he believed came embedded with positive attitudes which could make the world a better place. “You can’t teach old dog new tricks…but old dogs can teach you how to live, not fancy tricks. Tricks are for the circus dogs!” were the words that constantly met me when ever we spoke about “stuff”.

 

    

 

If you could distill all the wisdom which he imparted to me in one sentence, it would be this: extreme individualism and egoism, which is the “flavor of the day” among “young people” only breeds limited success on one hand and on the other, rootless competition, non corporation, arrogance and intimidation. It is greed orientated, much like rootless capitalism which is the cause of much of the environmental, economical and political problems of the day! Just think of BP and the oil spill catastrophe it has “gifted” us with!

 

Just think about this for a few moments….what was your experience like driving home from work today? Did somebody tail gate you? Hog the road? Double park? Create a bottle neck because of a lack of patience? Cut cue? Run through a traffic light when it was red? Ignore a stop, look and go? Parked in a no parking zone? Was this not extreme individualism without any thought of the other, of the “bigger picture” of society and humanity which has turned driving on Malaysian roads a stressful and nightmarish experience?  

 

That’s just talking about driving. What about the other aspects of individualistic greed in politics, work places, hospitals, schools, corporations, families, etc? The rational behind it is, well if you are not doing it, somebody else will be doing it and “gaining”. It is the smart thing to do, the clever way to outsmart the competition, the “only way” to get what you want in a world where there is a lack of resources or opportunities!

 

Here is where an “old dog” leaves behind “wise tales” for the “young guns” of today…that game of extreme individualism will only kill you and destroy the world! The vision left behind by our founding fathers was ONENESS, ABUNDANCE THROUGH CORPORATION and RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER AND THE PLANET. This is also part of the vision of Neuro Semantics: operating from abundance, cooperating to leverage on the collective wisdom of community as well as benefiting from the insights of multiple perspectives, the sharing of resources, respecting and recognizing the contribution of individuals, building supportive relationships, owning and embracing our fallibility, being solution orientated and being open and flexible to new understandings.

 

Is this new stuff? No way! It is the wisdom left behind by the “old dogs” that left us enduring heritages that we seem to be committed to destroying with extreme individualism. If you want more proof of this, just read through the newspaper!

 

“You can’t teach old dog new tricks…but old dogs can teach you how to live, not fancy tricks” were the word that constantly greeted me whenever I met up with my “old pal” residing at the old folk’s home. It was and is the words that reminded me of the dangers of “extreme individualism” and constantly points me to the vision that I willfully adopted when I became committed to the vision of Neuro Semantics. What about you?     

 

Stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world!

 

Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources. He has more than 14 years experience in Sales, Marketing, Business Management and Talent Development. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, is a Certified & Licensed Trainer of Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA), a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner.  You can follow Conrad on facebook!

Stones and beliefs!

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John and I go back a long way. We were school mates and are still very good friends today. As we grew up over these years, much of us have changed but some parts remain the same. The parts of us that did not change were the parts we BELIEVED needed no changing because it gave us meaning. We remained faithful to our inherited faiths, cultural practices, family values, etc. This meaning came from inside us because many others that we knew no longer believe in these same values or principles.

 

Now one thing about John that did not change was his belief in stones. Yes, you heard that right. He believed in the power of gem stones that gave him health, peace and prosperity. Of course, I never BELIEVED in stones or gem stones for that matter. So we took a bet. He challenged me to wear one of his stones for a week and experience the income earning opportunities it would bring. He told me that it would work, regardless if I believed in it or not. Ok, no harm, I’ll give it a try. Who would not like new incoming generating opportunities!

 

So the week started and the week ended. When he saw me again, he had his “I told you so” look on his face. Looking like a proud peacock, he asked, “Now do you believe?” “Hmmmmmm hell no!” was my cheeky answer. Nothing happened! “Really? Are you sure? Are you kidding me? You must be joking, right?” These were some of the skeptical statements that he thrown me. I felt like we were school kids again, having one of those teenager arguments about what is true and what is BS!

 

Well the truth was, nothing happened! Nothing has power except when you give it power! Most things outside us have very little ability to influence or change us. That power comes from within, the power of meaning. When we have meaning, deep meaning, we have belief and a belief can influence and change us. It leads to the performance of the meaning, its REAL – LIZATION.

 

Notice the liberating news of this truth. First this power is from within, not outside and hence we are in control of. Secondly, because of this, we can either keep it or remove it totally. What this means is that we can choose to disbelief something or to begin to believe in something new. We can choose beliefs that empower us, serve us and help us actualize. Or we can choose beliefs that rob us of power, enslaves us and lead us to addictions and self destructive behavior…..all the while believing that what controls us is on the outside! This inevitably leads to blame, our refusal to accept accountability for our behaviors or performance and superstitious thinking patterns.

 

So getting back to the gem stone, did it really work? No, because I did not believe in it. I never gave it power. Stones and beliefs…..well, beliefs always win! Because when we believe, we will have the powers to produce the right mindset, skills and strategies to succeed and realize our beliefs!    

 

Stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world!

 

Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources. He has more than 14 years experience in Sales, Marketing, Business Management and Talent Development. He holds a MBA from Gordon University, Illinois, is a Certified & Licensed Trainer of Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA), a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS, USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner.  You can follow Conrad on facebook!