“Global Cooling”

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She was a 68 year old widow who was abandoned to an old folk’s home some 12 years ago even though she had 3 sons. She had not felt her sons love and concern for a long time, ever since the day they got married. They were now too busy with their “careers”, their wives, their family matters and their in laws. Her world was a cold one: no phone calls, no letters, no visits, and no grand children to adore her or for her to “spoil”. She is a victim of the “global cooling” phenomena; living in an emotionally frozen world and exhausted of any hope that her children would care, love and touch her heart with kindness at least on last time.

 

 

Yet, she is not the only person living in such “emotionally frozen” conditions. There are many like her in old folk’s homes and in normal homes; from aged parents, married couples and single folks who experience a disconnect in their effective lives; folks who have not felt the touch of kindness in their relationships for a long time, who are victims of theglobal cooling phenomena. 

 

He was a 24 year old graduate who had just entered the job market. He had big dreams to become a successful corporate man. His first job promised him much but after 5 months he discovered that the work place was a rootless “war zone” of dirty politics, greed, selfishness and manipulation. His working relationships were cold, “ice age” like; he is the victim of the “global cooling” phenomena.  It left him frozen, disillusioned and at choice point: to either join the majority or stand alone.

 

Yet, he is not the only person working in such “frozen conditions”. There are many like him who work in places that lack kindness, work places that are “black holes” of deceit and dishonesty, cauldrons of the global cooling phenomena.        

 

She was an 11 year old girl. Pretty, charming, articulate and intelligent. She had every thing a 11 year old would want, need or desire. She had her own room, an i pad, expensive toys, branded clothing and accessories that would make many adults blush. She attended ballet, piano and swimming classes every week and a maid at her disposal 21/7. Nonetheless, she was “famished” and “exhausted”; famished for the love, kindness and attention of her parents and exhausted from trying hard to get it from them by being “Miss Perfect”. Her childhood is a cold one; she is a victim of the “global cooling” phenomena.

 

Yet, she is not the only child in the world living in such “emotionally frozen” conditions. They are everywhere, the anonymous majority who suffers in silence, with a smiling face. Innocent that is deprived of the very thing it needs to grow and flourish: loving kindness embodied in a “real relationship” with their parents.

 

“Our generation is realistic, for we have come to know man as he really is. After all, man is that being who invented the gas chambers of Auschwitz: however, he is also that being who entered those gas chambers upright, with the Lord’s Prayer or the Shema Yisreal on his lips.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

 

As we stand at the threshold of a new year, allow me to draw your attention to this  condition that’s escalating at an alarming rate, one that is leaving a huge hole in the “ozone layer” of human relationships and values that has long held society together; a condition that’s in many ways destroying the very fabric of our humanity. Its effects have been felt by almost everybody I know: I call it the “global cooling” phenomena, the condition of society where little kindness, is practiced. A society rapidly falling into crassness!  

 

The “global cooling” phenomena is characterized by coldness and indifference in human relationships. Behind it lies a form of selfish ambition that aggressively isolates and marginalizes one human person from another; promoting a self absorbed culture of “me-ism” that deletes the existence of the needs of others: be it a friend, a family member and even ones parents!

 

 

It is sinister in its ability to subtly influence the masses and mask itself as a “valid and smart” culture that promises one the quickest path to ones dreams, the path of instant gratification, regardless of the bigger picture, the compromise of values and the long term consequences of ones behavior. Its credo is that the end justifies the means; that ones narcissist, self inflated and self-centered needs takes top priority above anybody or anything else.

 

“They lack the awareness of a meaning worth living for. They are haunted by the experience of their inner emptiness, a void within themselves; they are caught in that situation which I have called the “existential vacuum.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

 

Have you experienced the effects of the “global cooling” phenomena?

 

Just take a drive down town (especially if you live inMalaysia) and you’ll meet folks who have decided that the traffic rules are no longer valid from them. Folks who break every driving code, over take at the double line, double or triple park, cut queues, ignore the traffic lights and signs, force their way into the driving path of others, make illegal turns, race, recklessly drive, road hog, tail gate and feel that what they are doing is “acceptable”, “valid” and the “smart” thing to do because it gets them to their destination in the fastest time possible and on their own selfish terms. Now what is the “cherry” on this cake is that you’ll see law enforcement officers at their beat totally oblivious to all this….busy chatting, texting on their smart phones or even grabbing a quick smoke!

 

Have you experienced these symptoms of “global cooling” on the roads and the highways? Have you been one of its victims?

 

“We were not born for the purpose of causing trouble and harming others.”

- His Holiness the Dalai Lama, May 2004.

 

What about the place where you currently work at? What is the “culture” that is practiced there? Is genuine kindness and fairness practiced? Many are caught in a work place that practices a culture of high threat and low trust, where intimidation is the tool of choice for Managers and Directors. Is your work environment a place where folks working on the same floor are strangers to one another: a place where folks pass each other like two ships in the night, without giving the slightest hint of a smile or an acknowledging nod?  

 

It is shocking to see just how unkind folks who work in the same company can be to one another. Instead of being an environment of shared outcomes and goals, it become a place where gross selfishness, in-fighting, cold indifference, cut throat competitiveness, general nastiness and rudeness effects and breaks down individual and team relationships. Places where employees fall victim to the global cooling phenomena!  

 

Have you experienced these symptoms of “global cooling” in your work place? Have you been one of its victims?

 

Have you taken a walk at the shopping mall lately, or at a hypermarket, supermarket or even drown the streets? Have you used the public transport lately? Have you noticed that the probability of you having a “cold”, “aggressively rude” and “unkind” experience at any these places these days is extremely high? This what you’ll you probably encounter, cold and aloof individuals aggressively pushing their way up escalators, violently fighting for places at the pay out counters, “rudely shoulder butting” their way through crowds, rushing into packed elevators even before the folks inside them can come out, ignoring elderly folks standing in the bus or train. Strangers glaring at you with a tight upper lip and cold shoulder ever ready to fight you for a place at a restaurant, a ticket or purchasing counter, the entrance to a shop or even a urinal in the toilet! (Not to mention for a parking space at the parking lot!!!)     

 

 

 

“In reality there are only two races, namely the “race” of decent people and the “race” of people who are not decent.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

    

Whatever happened to smiling at another human person instead of glaring at them to make sure that they understand you’re not to be messed with? Whatever happened to waiting for another person to exit the elevator before alighting it? Whatever happened to allowing someone to walk comfortable ahead of you instead of trying to fight that person so that you are “step ahead” of him or her? Whatever happened to holding an elevator for another person who is just a few seconds behind? Whatever happened to being patient behind a customer who is having a “difficult time” ordering his or her food at a fast food counter instead of impatiently gloating and murmuring about just how “stupid” they are?  Whatever happened to just being a little kind and compassionate to ones neighbour? Do we need the government to give us “financial incentives” in order to be kind?

 

How many times have you opened a door for someone only to get an ungrateful glare in return? How many times have you walked down a sidewalk or an aisle in the grocery store making way for someone who makes no effort to do the same for you? How many times have you said thank you to the person at the payout counter or restaurant to get a cold blank stare in return? How many times have you allowed someone to get ahead of you at the pay out counter only to get ignored with ingratitude? Have we forgotten that it is in our human nature to be kind?

 

Have you experienced these symptoms of “global cooling”? Have you been one of its victims?

  

Have you met elderly folks who have been “abandoned” by their children in old folk’s homes and who hardly get a monthly visit because they are “too busy” with other important stuff?  Have you met aged parents who stay with their children but who live in isolation, in emotional abandonment”, with no warm contact or communication with them? Have you met senior citizens who have been left to themselves on their birthdays and festive celebrations by their children; their only companions being a maid and the cable television? Or are you the only sibling looking after your aged or sick parents with no sense of support, be it emotionally or financially, from your other siblings?

 

Have you experienced these symptoms of “global cooling”? Have you been one of its victims?

 

Have you met the “lost generation”? Kids, children and teenagers who have been “emotionally abandoned” by their parents because they are busy building their careers, earning an income and “making ends meet”? Kids, children and teenagers who live in luxury with the best “toys” and necessities but who are brought up by maids, the TV, the internet and their grand parents? A generation that has experienced little kindness, love and emotional contact directly from their parents in a form of a “real relationship” and who compensates for this loss with destructive hobbies, habits and distractions? Have we forgotten the basics of parenting in this day and age?

 

 

 

Have you experienced these symptoms of “global cooling”? Have you been one of its victims?

 

“Values such as profit and efficiency are taking on greater importance at the expense of human warmth and genuine presence. Family affections and friendships suffer and are less lasting.”

- Piero Ferrucci, The Power of Kindness

 

What about what we read in the newspapers or hear on the radio or see in the news on cable television these days? From politics, domestic and international issues, economics and even sports, we see “gutter politics”, exploitation, corruption, dishonesty, civil and adolescent delinquency, “emotional abandonment” of children, abuse, violence, aggression and acts of gross unkindness in every shape and form.

 

Have you experienced these symptoms of “global cooling”? Have you been one of its victims?

 

As we stand on the threshold of a new year, perhaps we need to ask ourselves if we have grown so accustomed to the global cooling phenomena that we have either unconsciously or consciously subscribed to it? I know many who subscribe to the philosophy, “If you can’t beat them, join them” and who have given away their personal choice and “response – ability” to join the “band wagon”….what about you and me?

 

“In the concentration camps, for example, in this living laboratory and on this testing ground, we watched and witnessed some of our comrades behave like swine while others behave like saints. Man has both potentialities within himself; which one is actualized depends on decision but NOT on conditions.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

 

As the New Year descends on us at the stroke of 12 on the 1st of January 2012, some of us may opt to usher it in at home with loved ones. Some may choose to do so in a place of worship, praying for the needed blessings for a smooth year ahead. Some maybe busy making resolutions, brushing the dust off old dreams and goals that have gone unattended. Others maybe asking themselves what they need to do more off in the New Year to earn a bigger income to purchase that dream house, car or holiday while some may feel uncertain and anxious about their future. Whatever way we choose to usher in the New Year, perhaps we need to spare a thought about the global cooling phenomena and its dire consequences for our future.    

 

In the coming year……

 

Can we choose to be a little kinder to our loved ones, our colleagues, friends, neighbours and the “stranger” we meet on the road, in the shopping mall and on the street? As parents and adults, can we ensure that our children, those under our care, those we have influence over understand and experience kindness in ways that convinces them to do the same? Can we spread the news that we value a society where people care about one another through our “little and random acts of kindness”? Can we choose to kindly view others walking on the sidewalk, on the streets and in shopping mall as potential friends?  

 

Before we slip beyond any hope of return into a state of frozen rudeness, indifference and totalglobal cooling of human relationships and witness the holocaust of every thing decent in our nature, can we make a choice to turn things around by being kind for the sake of being kind?   

“My religion is kindness”

- His Holiness the Dalai Lama

 

This is the kind of heroism that the world needs today, the heroism of simple folks who choose to practice random acts of kindness on a daily basis to help heal human relationships, offer hope, restore trust and confidence in one another and offer each person true richness and happiness. For the true measure of a rich and successful society or community, a society of VISION 2020, is not in the number of millionaire is has but in the happiness and wellbeing of each person in relationship to one another: living in kindness. And why is kindness so important? Simply because it is the door way that allows other values like honesty, forgiveness, warmness, generosity, humility, patience, flexibility, respect, service and trust to be practiced!  

 

“But actually one may only demand heroism of one person, and that person is oneself.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

 

And why is kindness so difficult today? Because we have been seduced by the erroneous belief that true and lasting personal happiness, joy and contentment can only be found in fulfilling of our own needs and wants, forgetting the constitutive element in human nature, which is the self – transcendence of human existence. To quote Viktor E. Frankl, “It denotes the fact that human beings always point, and is directed, to something or someone other then oneself….The more one forgets himself – by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love- the more human he is and the more he actualizes himself.”        

 

“What is called self actualization is NOT an attainable aim at all, for the simple reason that the more one would strive for it, the more he would miss it. In other words, self actualization is possible only as a side effect of self transcendence.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

 

This will be my resolution for 2012, to be a little kinder to everybody and to practice random acts of kindness on a daily basis, at least one a day, to a total stranger. It’s a “cost free” resolution and can be done by simply helping a friend, being courteous to a stranger, saying “thank you” or “I’m sorry” more readily, respecting everyone no matter what his or her race, color, creed, social or economic status or political affiliation maybe and honoring the basic traffic laws and other civil laws that respects the rights of others and which upholds the common good.      

 

 

To practice being a little more compassionate, forgiving, charitable and understanding, to get over myself and my self absorbing egoistic needs and to give others the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps this will lead to a chain reaction of spontaneous random acts of kindness that in time lead to the warming of the “global cooling” phenomena.

 

What about you? Will you join me? Each person can make a difference and together we can cause a tsunami of kindness to sweep over our world, our neighbourhood, our community, families, work place and roads. So spread the word, let others know about the global cooling phenomena and how together, we can choose to warm our communities with kindness in 2012!

 

“Everything that is great is as rare to find as it is difficult to do. In fact, I myself believe that decent people are in the minority, have always been and always will be.”

- Victor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning.

 

 “Only goodness shall count.”

-Rabbi Leo Baeck, “Prayer for Reconciliation.”

 

Join the “Movement for Kindness” today and together, support one another in rehabilitating our world!

 

Hope you’ll enjoy the music video below…..try a little kindness!

 

WISHING YOU AND ALL YOUR DEAR ONES A HAPPY NEW YEAR, 2012!

MAY IT BE A YEAR FILLED WITH KINDNESS, LOVE,OPPORTUNITY, GOOD HEALTH AND PROSPERITY!        

 

 

 

Stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world!

 

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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company inMalaysia. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro –Semantics,USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS,USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA fromGordon University,Illinois,USA.
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