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 The word “Dominion” conjures ideas of power, influence and absolute control, be it over a situation, a group, another individual, an area or even an outcome. The dictionary defines it as control or the exercise of control; sovereignty, total rule, authority and subject over.  


 This same word appears at the very beginning of the Hebrew Scriptures, “Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”(Gn. 1:26)



It also appears, in its synonymous form, in the Quran, “It is He who made the ships subject to you, that they may sail through the sea by His command; and the rivers He has made subject to you. And He made subject to you the sun and the moon, both diligently pursuing their courses; and the night and the day He has made subject to you. And He gives you of all that you ask for.” (Qur’an 14.32-34)


And ever since then, man has quested for dominion not only over the earth and its resources but over each other too! His dominion over the earth, from tree to wild beast, has been barbaric, tilting its ecology dangerously. His quest for dominion over his fellow man is equally relentless and ruthless. From world wars, civil wars, tyrannical suppression and merciless ethnic cleansings to political, economical and religious manipulation and colonialism, man have insidiously craved for it.   


 “Religion, the dominion of the human mind; Property, the dominion of human needs; and Government, the dominion of human conduct, represent the stronghold of man’s enslavement and all the horrors it entails.”

- Emma Goldman


 Where does man get the “permission” to do so?


If the scriptures hands man “dominion” over the earth, it certainly does not give him dominion over his fellow man. If anything, he is required, encouraged and commanded to SERVE his fellow man and any position of leadership or governance is placed strictly in this context. In fact man will be judged according to this “golden rule”…and yet, man seeks dominion over his fellow man; “man” being you and me.  


 If we care to take a closer look at our daily lives, be it in our relationships at the work place, in our immediate or extended family, in an organization or social club, we seek the same dominance, be it overtly or subtly, in a big or small way. Perhaps we may not seek “dominance” but we certainly seek to influence proceedings enough to get things done our way and to meet some, if not all, of our outcomes. I catch myself doing this many times. How about you?


We live in a culture that canonizes the “virtue” of control, of being in charge and having the power to influence others to get what we want. Thousands of seminars and workshops are marketed by the “gurus of influence” to teach us the “secret” to controlling and influencing others and to get the life that we want, the good life: to look good, feel good and have the goods. Many even profess to have the secret to control the universe, to bring it to our knees and be our “genie” that presents us what we want and desire. Don’t most of us desire such power, to have things go just the way we want them to go?




“Nothing is more gratifying to the mind of man than power or dominion.”

- Joseph Addison


It provides us the illusion that this “control and dominion” will solve all our problems, remove our hurts, gain us our dreams, medicate our dysfunctional habits and liquidate our limiting beliefs. The “solution” to our “pain” or “issues” lies out there: with someone we admire, dislike, blame, hate, and feel victimized by or who we need to gain some measure of revenge, retribution and repentance: having dominion will gain us this.      




Because we are seduced by the rumor that if we were to have total control and dominion over our externals, be it events, circumstances, the opinions of others, their thinking, choices, decisions and actions, we would be able to be happier, be more effective, productive, be pain free and get what we want, when we want it and the way we want it. Somehow believing that what is outside us, is the “creator” of our well being, sanity and happiness.    


“Everybody thinks of changing humanity, but nobody thinks of changing himself.”

- Leo Tolstoy


Have we not labored tirelessly to this end? Struggled constantly, lived in a state of stress and tension, desperately trying to have some measure of control and dominion?


Has it not kept us distracted, away from the only place where our true power and dominion lies, the place where we can effect change, be pain free, determine our happiness and peace of mind? The place where we can be a co creator, enjoying dominion over the very source and resources that can change our world….our very selves! If ever we are required to have “dominion” over any human person, that person is our very selves!




Because the ultimate source of power lies within us and questing to have dominion over it ensures us our own well being, the well being of other and right stewardship over the earth…a power given to us by our Creator. 


“There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority and control, your mind and your mouth”

- African Proverb


What is this “ultimate source” of power?


The freedom and right to create our own beliefs, attitudes, values, understandings, direction, rules, likes and dislikes. It’s called our personal power which lies in the FOUR prime faculties given to us and by which we use to mould and create our inner reality: the power of thought – thinking, speech – words, emotion – feelings and action – behavior. When these powers are synergize, they produces the most potent power that can change anything, the power of CHOICE. These are the powers of “creation” given to us by our Creator as co-creators.    



“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence,
but it comes from within. It is there all the time.”

- Anna Freud, Austrian psychologist


Abdication of personal power.


The sad truth however is that most of us choose not to exercise dominion over these powers of our internal reality. Instead we choose to play the “power-less” game of wanting to have dominion, influence and mastery over everything external “out there” in order to create our own peace of mind, well being, self esteem, meaning, fulfillment, happiness, etc. Then when we are unable to do so, we resort to playing the blame game, the helplessness game, the “you are responsible” for my feelings and well being game, “the world just does not care for me” game, “people owe me” game, “life is not fair” game, “God does not love me” game, etc.


Whatever these games may be, they all have one thing in common: their primary focus is on “power failure”, ones failure to recognize where ones true power lies, in oneself, in having the freedom and choice to CREATE the attitudes and beliefs that serve us from the inside out. The irony however is that we use these very powers, unawares, to create the very “games” that work against us…all because we fail to have dominion over them. 


“You can have no dominion greater or less than that over yourself.”

 - Leonardo da Vinci


Abdication of peace of mind and well being.  


Most of us are unaware that everything in our lives is the result of something we have created by a specific action (be it the creation of a thought, a limiting belief, presupposition, expectation, rules, understanding, etc.) promoted it by some other kind or type of action or allowed to come into existence by the absence of an action or by some other means. “The words are create, promote and allow” (“Authenticity” by George & Sedena Cappannelli)


I love the description given above by George and Sedena Cappanelli, the words “create, promote and allow” which describes the way, the mechanism or modus operandi by which we use our “personal power” to create our own “ill” when we fail to have dominion over them.


“To the question of your life you are the answer,
and to the problems of your life you are the solution.”

- Joe Cordare


Just stop for a moment and ask yourself, aren’t most of our problem “created” by us, by the way we have represented an “experience”; interpreted it and created a limiting belief or beliefs about ourselves, our worth, potential and capability from this very interpretation? We then form further limiting beliefs about others, the world, work, family, love, our future, God, etc from this set of beliefs.



Once done so, we take it to the “next level” by promoting limiting expectations and rules from these beliefs which generate a restricted way of thinking, feeling, talking and behaving. Finally we allow it to be perpetuated by habitually dwelling on them while avoiding any evidence or information that may invalidate our “sacredly held” limiting beliefs, defending and justifying them while playing the “blame”, “you are responsible for my well being” or “I’m helpless” game.  


“Ninety per cent of the world’s woe comes from people not knowing themselves, their abilities, their frailties, and even their real virtues. Most of us go almost all the way through life as complete strangers to ourselves — so how can we know anyone else?”

-Sidney J. Harris


Projection: the source of our illusion.  


Once we have done this, we then “project it out” into the world, into the external reality, and then try our best to control and have dominion over the external reality to avoid the pain that we believe “it brings us” or access the “pleasure” it owes us.


“Be careful – the darkness you see in another’s heart might just be a reflection of that which is in your own heart”

- Teachings of theTemple


We use these “projected reality” as our perceptual filters to view and interpret everything that happens externally, unaware that it’s our perceptual filters, and not what’s happening out there, that is either bringing us pain or pleasure: our meanings, beliefs, expectations, rules, understandings, etc. which we have created by the mechanism of “create, promote and allow”!



“Man stands in his own shadow and wonders why it’s dark.”

- Zen Proverb


The good news!


The good news however is that we can use this same mechanism to embark on the adventure and quest to have dominion over that which we are supposed to have dominion and mastery over: our very selves!


What are we specifically called to have dominion over? Our beliefs, attitudes, feelings, understandings, conclusions, rules, expectations, etc., in short everything that is happening inside us, in our entire neurology! It is this domain that we have the capability, resources and mandate to be in charge of and enjoy dominion!  


 “Your real self – the ”I am I” – is master of this land, the ruler of this empire. You rightfully have power and dominion over it, all its inhabitants, and all contained in its realm.”

 - Robert Collier


That is our real mission and calling, to break through the illusion that we need to have dominion over others in order to be happy. If we choose to remain in the “control of others” game, we can be assured of a life of constant tension, stress, distraction, blame, helplessness, and pain….and it never will stop because it’s just not possible! If we choose to have dominion over ourselves, we will begin a journey to authenticity, claiming our powers to accept responsibility for our own well being, unleashing our full potential and creating the attitudes and beliefs that serve us well from the inside out, while remaining sane and emotionally free!  



 “No one is more interesting to anybody than is that
mysterious character we all call me, which is why
self-liberation, self-actualization, self-transcendence,
etc., are the most exciting games in town.”

- Robert Wilson


Come, join me in this adventure!  


I hope you’ll “reflectively enjoy” this clip from the movie Rocky, talking about the “stuff in the basement” and his struggle to have dominion over it: a great metaphor of our quest for dominion over our very selves!            


Rocky Balboa – Stuff In The Basement (Subtitles Available)



Think RADICALLY and stay committed to transcending, transforming and transferring value back to your world!


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Conrad Rozario is the founder of Alchemy Resources, a cutting edge human potential and peak performance development company in Malaysia. He has more than 15 years experience in people development from the diverse fields of Sales, Marketing, Customer Engagement and Service, Business Management and Talent Development. He is a Certified & Licensed Neuro Semantics and Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP) Trainer from the International Society of Neuro –Semantics,USA, a Master Practitioner in Neuro Semantics and NLP (ISNS,USA) and a Language and Behavior Profiling for Coaching Practitioner. He holds a MBA fromGordon University,Illinois,USA.